Let's Talk About...Break Ups and Moving On.

Ah break ups.

Can't say I've been through one (unless it's with my favourite t.v show because it killed off my favourite character, then I understand the pain).

But in all seriousness, I've never had a boyfriend, so I haven't experience a break up. But, I've seen enough to see what it can do to people. Obviously, everyone reacts differently.

I have been close to having relationships and crushes but due to my awkwardness, it doesn't work out. I don't mind, I'm happy being single.

Sometimes.

But, I'm going to give you some tips and advice (whether you take it or not is up to you in all honesty) to getting over your significant other.

1. Block/Delete them on ALL forms of social media!

Don'f fight me on this please.

Looking at your ex's photos and profiles is the worst thing you can do for yourself mentally and will not help your case in moving on! You'll constantly stalk them and see what photos they're liking and who their new boo is. You don't have to block them forever, but just enough time for you to be okay and accept that the relationship is over. You're going to be hurt or jealous if you see them with someone else (you know it for a fact), so, do yourself a favour and save yourself the pain. You go this boo, I believe.

2. Keep Your Break Up Private!

Okay, so as much as this pains some people who don't know the term privacy or keeping things to themselves and want to vent everything out on Facebook in a 500 words essay, please try and not to do so. You are mature and better than that, and if your ex has shared a post on Facebook attacking you? Ignore it. As hard as that may be to do (trust me I'm someone that doesn't hold back and is ready for a fight) it's gonna frustrate them more that you haven't reacted to it or commented on it, so in the end you're a better person. Don't get to their level. Trust me, karma will find them in some way. 

3. Feel the Feels, Honey!

It's okay to cry about it. There's no shame in feeling sadness and heartbroken about no longer being with someone you love and care about (boys this includes you too). If you keep that shit bottled up, honey, it's gonna hit you like a title wave where you least expect it. Next you'll be crying through the McDonalds drive thru because their frappe machine is broken and that's all you wanted to make your day better...anyway, moving on. Feel the feels and be one with your emotions. Don't hide them.

4. Don't. You. DARE.

Alright guys, gals and non-binary pals, (thank you Thomas Sanders) this is an absolute must with anything. You're out with your friends, you've broken up with your ex and you're out on the town, having fun and getting drunk (in moderation of course, kids). Suddenly, you have the urge to call your ex, tell them you miss them and want them back, thus concluding in them having the power over you and influencing your thoughts. DO NOT CONTACT THEM WHEN YOU'RE INTOXICATED. SIMPLE, BUT AFFECTIVE. Give your phone to a trusted friend to hold on to and make sure they don't give it to you. Better to be safe then sorry and dealing with the consequences of embarrassment, along with a hangover the next morning. Neither are fun.

I've learned the hard way.

5. Don't Go Through it Alone

Your friends are going to be your lifeline throughout this time. They're going to hit you with reality, make you go out into the world and be your shoulder to cry on. Don't turn them away or ignore them if they message you everyday to ask you how your day was or how you've been feeling. Real friends give a shit about you and actually care. So, don't push them away, let them in and you can cry together. There's nothing wrong with that. 

6. Find Yourself Again Before Finding Someone Else

You've spent a long time sharing your time with someone else. Almost everyday you've talked, seen or have thought about them. When you go through a break up, it's like going cold turkey. You no longer have the enjoyment of their company and receiving that good morning text. It sucks. It hurts. I get it.

But don't look at it as a complete loss, think of it as an opportunity.

You have now time to work on yourself, find yourself again, the single side of you. Explore and experience new things. A new social activity such as a sport, dance or music. Don't waste your time moping around about 'what ifs'. Go out there and enjoy yourself. Being single isn't the worst thing, because you won't be single forever. I can assure you of that.

7. New Relationship? Take it Slow.

Okay, you've stepped back into the game and you've met someone new. Great. Awesome. Claps for you.

But, the only problem is you're still thinking about what happened to the previous relationship and how it ended, making you conflicted and anxious about this new relationship.

My advice?

Take it slow, for god sakes.

You have heaps of time to get to know this new person. Don't rush into anything and take it at a slow pace. Let your new partner know about this and they'll appreciate your honesty. You'll feel better about yourself too.

8. Stop Blaming Yourself!

Stop blaming yourself for what's happened. Don't beat yourself up and keep trying to recreate senario's in how you would've saved the relationship differently, or even broken up with them differently. It's happened now, you can't change the past. But, you can look forward to the future. Don't put your sole focus on everything that's happened, look forward to things that are happening now or will happen. Blaming yourself is going to make things worse on you. Your partner left for a reason or you've split up with them yourself for reasons only known to you. If you're really meant for each other, you'll come back to each other. If you don't, don't force it.

So, to pretty much sum up everything in this, heartbreak doesn't last forever. It'll hurt and you'll hurt, but it doesn't last.

Keep your chin up, you're better and worth more than that.

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